Someone Special
>> Monday, December 21, 2009
Sometimes it so happens that someone comes into our life suddenly. That person brings us joy and happiness and makes us feel special. Life suddenly becomes beautiful. One such person came in my life 2 months ago.
We had stayed in the same society for almost 25 years, grew up together, went to the same school, but as we were not in the same age group, we had a different set of friends and never really knew anything about each other except each others’ names. In the so many years that we knew each other, wehave hardly spoken 5 sentences to other than the occasional ‘Hi’.
Then some 3 years ago I changed houses and went to live in a different part of the city for 6 months. I again changed my house and came to stay in the same locality. Somewhere along the way, orkut happened and we managed to find each other. We chatted on and off and generally knew more than each others names like where we worked, what our mutual friends were doing etc. The chat was not a regular feature and we managed to catch each other online pretty infrequently say about once in 3-4 months. We had exchanged cell numbers and did (or rather he) send general forwarded jokes. Sometimes I replied, sometimes I did not. We did not think much about this.
Then 2 months ago, we exchanged messages. Nothing out of the ordinary, but as we messagaed, we realized that we were actually having a conversation and both of us ended speaking to each other as if we were long lost friends and we realized that we haven’t spoken so much in the years that we ‘knew’ each other as much as we had shared in the 2 hours that we were chatting. We were telling each other about our feelings in our past relationships which both of us had not shared with anyone.
This became a regular feature since that day when no matter how late we come home, we sms each other other and have a conversations. Sometimes it’s a meaningful conversation and sometimes we end up just flirting. Most often than not we end up chatting about nothing rather that something. These sms chats last late into the night . Im sleeping for just about 5 hours daily. This coming from me, who used to get irritated even if slept for ½ hour less.
We don’t have anything in common with each other. I love books. He hates books. I love romantic movies, he loves action. Im shy and an introvert. He cannot do without people around him. Hes the leader, im the follower. Hes outspoken, Im reserved. Hes flamboyant, I’m the exact opposite. They only thing that we have in common is our love for a particular type of Bengali sweet. But in some strange way we still seem to have connected.
For the first time, Ive found someone who cares for me. Who makes me laugh. Who says something silly and then messages me saying 'smile like this always'. Who asks me how my day was. Who wants me to share even the most mundane thing of my life and gives me a patient hearing. Who understands what I mean without being judgmental. Who can tell if Im upset just by the way I send my messages. And who bothers to ask what is wrong. Who gives me my space, who tells me that its perfectly ok if I don’t want to tell him something, who pestered me and bullied me to visit the doc when I was not well. Who actually told me that he’ll come with me to give me company at the doctor’s when I said that I don’t have the patience to wait at the clinic.
He is not perfect though. He has a major ego problem. He’s told me that himself. He insisted me to go to the doc, but totally ignored his health for a good three days before he took medicines. He is very stubborn and does not listen to anyone even if they beg and plead.
Inspite of all this, he’s special. I too have started caring for him. I haven’t felt this way about someone in a long, a really long time now. We have had our arguments and fights and making up after the fights too in the last couple of months.
And all this has happened only over smses. We have spoken to each other only 4 times in the last 2 months. Twice was for professional reasons and twice was because he wanted to inform me that his messaging service is not working. Inspite of working in the same area and living about ½ a kilometer from each other we have still not met. Not even accidentally bumped into each other.
And now I think its time to end it. Not because we don’t want to take this ahead but there shall not be a logical conclusion to this. I don’t want to get carried away and lose even the beautiful time that we shared together. It was good while it lasted and I think the time has come for me to wane myself from him. He was the warm sunshine that came into my life on a winter morning and I want to remember him the same way.
There is this line from my favourite movie- ‘You’ve Got Mail’- ‘We have usually spoken mostly about nothing rather than something. But all these nothings have meant more, much more for me that so many somethings.’. Take care and happiness always. You shall always be special.
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We had stayed in the same society for almost 25 years, grew up together, went to the same school, but as we were not in the same age group, we had a different set of friends and never really knew anything about each other except each others’ names. In the so many years that we knew each other, wehave hardly spoken 5 sentences to other than the occasional ‘Hi’.
Then some 3 years ago I changed houses and went to live in a different part of the city for 6 months. I again changed my house and came to stay in the same locality. Somewhere along the way, orkut happened and we managed to find each other. We chatted on and off and generally knew more than each others names like where we worked, what our mutual friends were doing etc. The chat was not a regular feature and we managed to catch each other online pretty infrequently say about once in 3-4 months. We had exchanged cell numbers and did (or rather he) send general forwarded jokes. Sometimes I replied, sometimes I did not. We did not think much about this.
Then 2 months ago, we exchanged messages. Nothing out of the ordinary, but as we messagaed, we realized that we were actually having a conversation and both of us ended speaking to each other as if we were long lost friends and we realized that we haven’t spoken so much in the years that we ‘knew’ each other as much as we had shared in the 2 hours that we were chatting. We were telling each other about our feelings in our past relationships which both of us had not shared with anyone.
This became a regular feature since that day when no matter how late we come home, we sms each other other and have a conversations. Sometimes it’s a meaningful conversation and sometimes we end up just flirting. Most often than not we end up chatting about nothing rather that something. These sms chats last late into the night . Im sleeping for just about 5 hours daily. This coming from me, who used to get irritated even if slept for ½ hour less.
We don’t have anything in common with each other. I love books. He hates books. I love romantic movies, he loves action. Im shy and an introvert. He cannot do without people around him. Hes the leader, im the follower. Hes outspoken, Im reserved. Hes flamboyant, I’m the exact opposite. They only thing that we have in common is our love for a particular type of Bengali sweet. But in some strange way we still seem to have connected.
For the first time, Ive found someone who cares for me. Who makes me laugh. Who says something silly and then messages me saying 'smile like this always'. Who asks me how my day was. Who wants me to share even the most mundane thing of my life and gives me a patient hearing. Who understands what I mean without being judgmental. Who can tell if Im upset just by the way I send my messages. And who bothers to ask what is wrong. Who gives me my space, who tells me that its perfectly ok if I don’t want to tell him something, who pestered me and bullied me to visit the doc when I was not well. Who actually told me that he’ll come with me to give me company at the doctor’s when I said that I don’t have the patience to wait at the clinic.
He is not perfect though. He has a major ego problem. He’s told me that himself. He insisted me to go to the doc, but totally ignored his health for a good three days before he took medicines. He is very stubborn and does not listen to anyone even if they beg and plead.
Inspite of all this, he’s special. I too have started caring for him. I haven’t felt this way about someone in a long, a really long time now. We have had our arguments and fights and making up after the fights too in the last couple of months.
And all this has happened only over smses. We have spoken to each other only 4 times in the last 2 months. Twice was for professional reasons and twice was because he wanted to inform me that his messaging service is not working. Inspite of working in the same area and living about ½ a kilometer from each other we have still not met. Not even accidentally bumped into each other.
And now I think its time to end it. Not because we don’t want to take this ahead but there shall not be a logical conclusion to this. I don’t want to get carried away and lose even the beautiful time that we shared together. It was good while it lasted and I think the time has come for me to wane myself from him. He was the warm sunshine that came into my life on a winter morning and I want to remember him the same way.
There is this line from my favourite movie- ‘You’ve Got Mail’- ‘We have usually spoken mostly about nothing rather than something. But all these nothings have meant more, much more for me that so many somethings.’. Take care and happiness always. You shall always be special.
